It's All About the Equipment: Why Men Shy Away From Sex Toys

While in a sporting goods store the other day, I saw two men looking at golf clubs. The prices for a driver in this store ranged from $49.95 to $235. Which drivers do you think these men were interested in? As I wandered through the store I saw a man picking out a kayak. As I observed, he was comparing two seemingly identical kayaks, the only difference being the price...one was $150 more than the other. Guess which one he bought? Yup...the more expensive one. Despite current gas prices, there are still an abundance of Hummers, dual rear tires on a diesel pickup truck, and luxury sedans on the road. A friend of mine is a yacht salesman and he reports that the smaller boats are not selling well this year, but that 45' and above are selling well.

What it comes down to, men (and interested ladies), is our love affair with our equipment. We want the best, we want to show off our best, and we want others to see that we have the best. So why, then, do men seem to have more difficulty in accepting, using, and buying sex toys to enhance our sexual relationship with our partners? The reason is quite simple and goes back to puberty for most of us. It's the fear that OUR equipment, our sexual equipment, is somehow going to be inferior and our use of sex toys will only accentuate the fear that "our stuff" isn't going to be the right stuff to please our mates, and we really don't want the competition with a vibrating, gyrating, adjustable speed dildo!

Remember ABC Junior High School, where for the first time you had gym class complete with showers, lockers, and dressing rooms? Admit it, guys, didn't you peek around to showers to see who had what stuff? Whose penis was larger than yours, who had more hair (a big deal in junior high), who was better built, and who had the buff body? Of course you did, you liar...we ALL did. And we either gained confidence about our bodies (and abilities) or we ended up being self-conscious and hiding our bodies as much as we possibly could. Here's the problem...now we're adults and we're STILL hung up about our equipment, and we desperately want our equipment to be the ONLY thing our partners need to satisfy them. And, perhaps we do satisfy our partners to whatever extent our own equipment works and how many positions we've managed and mastered.

WHAT IF...we could feel good about what we have, learn to use it to the best of our ability to please our partners AND spice up our sex lives and take sexual pleasure to a whole new level for both of you. This is where sex toys and The Basic Touch come in. IF you can learn that you are NOT in competition with sex toys when it comes to pleasuring your partner, and IF you can see and experience sex toys as your PARTNER in pleasing your partner, now you've really got your sexual mojo working.

Remember, that your sexual relationship is a MUTUAL endeavor...not a competition, Olympic event, or a singular endeavor. When you AND your partner visit The Basic Touch, and look at the sex toys together, discussing which ones might me most advantageous in creating mutual sexual pleasure and satisfaction, you will find much more excitement, variety, and a heightened sense of connectedness.

So, guys, you've got what you were made with, and there's nothing wrong with it. Use it to the best of your ability...and let The Basic Touch do the rest.