What's All The Noise About Toys?

They have long been kept in the closet (or under the bed) and out of sight from friends, family, and children. They have been kept in the dark not only in our bedrooms, but in our thoughts, ideas about sexuality, and in our conversations with others. They are THE SEX TOYS!

What was once considered by many to be a perverse addition to sex and love-making (there was a reason they were called "Puritans", if only in name) is now becoming a major part of the sexual landscape throughout the world. Recently I typed the words "sex toys" into the Google search engine and got "About 19,000,000" references in .06 seconds. That's faster than it takes most men to get an erection!! Why all of the current interests in sex toys and the positive effect they can have on our sexual experiences? Let's examine a few statistics collected from a variety of sources:

• In a recent survey of several thousand women in the United States, 38% indicated they had never had an orgasm through intercourse.
• 70% of women report they have never had an orgasm by penile stimulation alone.
• 43% of women surveyed reported they were either totally non-orgasmic or had experienced long periods of time when they were unable to achieve an orgasm by any means.
• 30% of men and 40% of women report having some sort of sexual difficulty including, but not limited to lack of interest, inability to achieve orgasm, painful intercourse, and premature ejaculation.
• 95% of men and 70% of women report they masturbate on a regular basis.
• A period of love-making in the United States is reported to occur about 120 times a year and average about 28.1 minutes, with 6 to 10 minutes of that in actual thrusting intercourse.
• The sexual act occurs approximately 120,000,000 times daily around the world resulting in around 910,000 pregnancies.

As we can see from these few statistics, there's a whole lot of action and a lot less satisfaction!!!!

And here is where sex toys play a very important role. In order for the sexual relationship to result in MUTUAL satisfaction, it has to result in more than a six-pack of beer, a little tonsil-hockey, and inserting Tab A into Slot B. Conversation plays a big part, and not just the "Was it as good for me as it was for you?" afterglow before passing out into sleep. It is important to LEARN about your lover. What is meaningful to them? What stimulates them? What irritates them? How can they be talked to sexually in ways that stimulate them and draw them closer to you...rather than offending and pushing them away? What do they need to feel safe in what is the most vulnerable aspect of a relationship? How can they be touched in ways that indicate intimacy as opposed to groping? What parts of their bodies can be most sexually stimulated and what are the means of stimulation that can lead to mutual and mind-blowing orgasms?

Individuals who regularly incorporate sex toys into their love-making find that it adds an incredible new dimension of stimulation and excitement into their liaisons. A multi-speed vibrator can stimulate the clitoris, hit the sensitive areas at the entrance of the vagina, stimulate the sensitive areas around the anus, and tease both the penis and nipples into an erect state. A vibrating penis ring on a man's erect penis can connect with a woman's clitoris in ways that the penis alone cannot achieve, resulting in more frequent and powerful orgasms for both the man and woman.  The vibrating penis ring can also be used with a dildo for foreplay or masturbation.  Many of the new vibrators incorporate multi-speed motors and various vibrating or rotating stimulation points that make simultaneous contact with several erogenous points at once.  Various types of lubrications can aid in overcoming the irritation of a vagina that does not self-lubricate well, help prolong erections, increase stimulation, and come in a variety of scents that add to the erotic aspects of sexual play.  Once the imagination overcomes the inhibitions, there is no end to the amount of incredible stimulation that sex toys can add to your sexual relationships.  Whether you are single and not in a relationship, in a relationship, straight, or gay...sex toys give you what you need to enhance your sexuality and sexual relationships.

So...all the noise about the toys is that they are in, people are using them, talking about them, and enjoying them.  They are making it possible for thousands of individuals to raise their level of sexual satisfaction to heights they have never before experienced.

Until next time, remember...BE SAFE, BE SANE, BE SEXY!!!